I recently met this guy.
He shall remain nameless but for all intent purposes we’ll call him: Boss. Initially, Boss seemed pretty cool. I mean we had light to moderate conversations via Gchat, text messaging, and by phone. And to be honest, Reader, he kind of caught my attention by how he kept up in dialogue and his humor. (I’m a stickler for that!) He’s pretty hot too. But I digress.
I guess it’s safe to assume that he may have felt the same way about me (in terms of grabbing his attention) because after all of that, he precedes to ask:
If you're this wonderful young lady with this great personality, why are you single? Is it that you don't get out enough?
You know what, Boss, that’s a good ass question! I've been asking myself for quite some time now.
I get out! Not clubbing every Thursday through Sunday like a dog in heat, but I get out! I’m more well-rounded like galas, networking socials, happy hours, girls nights, hanging with coworkers and their friends, my sister’s circles, etc., etc. I’ve even been on a few dates. They just turned out to be LAME! Trust me, I’m trying.
I get out! Not clubbing every Thursday through Sunday like a dog in heat, but I get out! I’m more well-rounded like galas, networking socials, happy hours, girls nights, hanging with coworkers and their friends, my sister’s circles, etc., etc. I’ve even been on a few dates. They just turned out to be LAME! Trust me, I’m trying.
Damn, sucks for you, says Boss.
Yes, sucks for me.
I hadn’t realized how long it’s been since my last relationship came to an abrupt hault (coming up on 3 years now) or even a constant dating partner until earlier this year and I had to ask myself: was it me? But then I quickly realized, HELL NO!
Imma go ahead and step out on a limb and say that I AM PERFECT; something like a prototype; last of a dying breed – all that; worth it.
I recognize my perfection is not perfected. But what bamboozles me is that my perfection goes undetected.
I recognize my perfection is not perfected. But what bamboozles me is that my perfection goes undetected.
^^^ yea, read that again, it’s profound ^^^
I'm not gonna sit here and list all my credentials and reasonings as to why I feel that I'm perfect. Nor will I toot my own horn for much longer. But I will tell you, Reader, how I feel about perfect people and perfect relation or newfound friendships:
Perfect relationships aren't meant to start perfectly. Hell, no relationship is ever perfect at all; no matter what you're idea of perfection is. An imperfect Perfect relationship is one that is shared with someone with whom u can grow together with towards perfection; to share good times with; overcome obstacles with; laugh with; support unspeakable; shoulders to cry on; inhibitions lost; ALL equally, ALL entirely, ALL tirelessly, ALL foreverly.
- With each other -
And when that happens, Reader, I can only imagine that it tastes something like a White Chocolate Caramel Macadamia Nut Cheesecake topped with feathery whipped cream, drizzled lightly with caramel.
But to answer his question, I merely said: I'm looking for someone who's looking for Wonderful and knows it when he sees it. I don’t know, maybe guys aren’t looking for Wonderful right now...and that's all I can be.
*PA.system.noise*
Paging Mister Right, Paging Mister Right!
NOT Mister Right now!
Paging Mister Right, Paging Mister Right!
NOT Mister Right now!
And trust me, I haven’t given up, Boss.
Peace.

I am FEEEEEEELIN you so hard on this piece!! You just said what I've been feeling all along. Yes, I'm perfect!! And Hell NO I'm not the problem. If I was, they wouldnt b coming back years later saying, "you were the best thing that ever happened to me, I was just stupid!" I blame the generation. I blame the mindset of the times. Instant gratification. No one wants to work for things anymore. No one wants to wait and sacrifice pleasure for long-lasting joy later. And by no one, I mean people in our generation and even a little older. For shame. You are perfect. And you need not compromise for Mr. Right NOW just for the sake of being in a relationship. Of course I dont need to tell you that!! =) Thanx for the post Ms. Bug!!
ReplyDeletei enjoy your work...keep writing girl :)
ReplyDeleteI have read this mess twice now. I even read the post above. I can't believe that women still don't get it. Are you guys really that slow or are you just simply blind?
ReplyDeletePoint 01...
Women from the time they are born, live in a fantasy land. All of your life, you dream of the perfect guy, all of the perfect features that this perfect guy has, the perfect relationship, all of the possessions that this perfect guy will bring to the perfect relationship....etc.
Then when real life hits you, you're unable to deal with that fact that you will never find that fantasy guy. He doesn't exist. Yet, you will continue to search for him and search for him. You even fool yourself into thinking that he is real and you will never settle for anything less. That's crazy and insane.
Point 02...
You are thought from a very young age that you are something special. Your parents spent countless hours convincing you of this. "You're so special and only a special guy deserves you...blah, blah, blah". I guess this is programmed into young women in order to boost their self-esteem. However, it's a complete lie.
The truth is you're not special. What makes you so different than the billion other women walking earth? NOTHING. Get off of the high horse and except the fact that the problem does start with you and you only..
Point 03...
The problem is that you sincerely believe that you're not the problem. Okay, lets break this down. No matter how many guys you meet, no matter where you meet them and no matter the time frame that you talk to them, it always ends and you seriously think that they are the problem. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA I have to laugh. "2+2 is not 4, I don't care what millions of people say"...lol
Look, when you have pre-conceived ideas about what type of guy you want, how you want him to look, the car you want him to drive, the house you want him to have, then you have lost all touch with reality. I mean think about it. The definition of insanity is to do something over and over again, the exact same way and expect different results. Learn to except responsibility for your actions. Except the fact that you are not perfect and you are the problem. Then, you can break out of that insane cycle.
Point 04...
If you want to meet your soul mate, try this. Let go of every thought you have ever had of how your soul mate would be. Go out with people that you would otherwise never go out with. Meet people that you would otherwise not show an interest in. Give someone a chance that you would have never given a thought to. Open your damn eyes to possibility. Tell yourself that the guy/girl doesn't have to be a size 6, light skinned, long hair, green eyes, have abs of steel, muscles, curly hair...etc.
When you realize that you have been the problem all along, you realize that you're not perfect and you stop getting in the way of yourself, I promise you that you will meet the man or woman of your dreams.
Think about it...!!
Thanks, guys! I'm sure both of you don't have much to say because you guys are taken, but for what it's worth, I know you feel me.
ReplyDeleteShawn, I'll address your ignorance at a later time, wait on it though.
ReplyDeleteIgnorance.....? lol Ok, take your time and try to think of something deep and intelligent to say. I'll be waiting (humming the jeopardy tune)
ReplyDeleteI'd settle for the classic cheesecake. Yours has too much extra. Could that be an analogy for the man you are looking for?
ReplyDelete*drops mic*